Weird names.

I was looking through a friend's online photo album and was wondering why she was tagging the pictures as "Nice" or "Nice - Town Square" when the pictures weren't exactly spectacular. Then i slowly come to realise that the place was named NICE.

I went to googling and shortlisted some places that I wouldn't want to end up living in:

1. Bastard (Norway)
2. Fucking (Austria)
3. Dikshit (India)
4. Bloody Dick (Montana, USA)
5. Dildo (Newfoundland, Canada)
6. Seymen (Turkey)
7. Black Butte (Oregon, USA)
8. Elephant Butte (New Mexico, USA)
9. Big Cockup and Little Cockup (England)
10. Twatt (Orkney, UK)

However come places can be cool:

1. Blowhard (Australia)
2. Petting (Germany)
3. Titting (Germany)
4. Long Dong (Guangxi, China)
5. Licking Valley (Ohio, USA)
6. Wet Beaver Creek (Australia)
7. Sexmoan (Luzon, Philippines)
8. Mount Mee (Australia)
9. Fingeringhoe (Essex, UK)
10. Climax Springs (Missouri, USA)

What Happened to All the Nice Guys?

A guy claimed that this is the most common question in a girl's mind and posted the answer to this question.I thought I should evaluate his views.

I wonder, is that a question or a complaint?

What happened to all the nice guys?

I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out. The answer is simple: you did. Blaming yourself is never simple.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were fcking treated you. As a guy, he have a hundreds of better thing to do than tagging with a girl and listening to her whine. (e.g. His own happy time with porn, saving the world through his computer games, get pissed drunk with his best mates complaining about how hard it is to understand girls, go pray at the temple for the best girlfriend and luck at punting, etc) The only reason he is putting in so much effort because he assessed that he has a high probability to get hooked up. Or he's just highly infatuated and started swimming out into the ocean of stupidity.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. That's pretty smart - get people to notice you. What's the point when no one knew you existed? They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Everything started from friends Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease. You better be damn tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish to make that kind of judgment on others.

Eventually, your platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. That sounds a disease among girls - letting emotional judgment take over rationality and picking the wrong boyfriend So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating reciprocated? that's naive! it's like expecting to win at all gambles , in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. Hallelujah He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. Nope, he should realize that people as a whole are selfish. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. That took long for someone to realize that! lol He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be. Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your as.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.
Ignore all the 3 suggestions, especially number 3. Start thinking rationally and make better decisions.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you. I totally disagree. What constitute a nice guy is very subjective. From a marketing point of view, to believe that all women defines 'nice guys' as an exclusive package is suicidal. A dude should always understand his strengths and target at women who see his strengths as "nice guy attributes" Seriously, learn from the players - They got it right in the first place. You can be as good as a player but not accepting their moral values.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've fcked
yourself over. You're getting old. Same advice for guys, learn and grow up.

There is no such thing as failure in relationships but poor communication.

If she wants a little red car, don't try to sell her a little blue car. If the red car costs too much to make, find someone who is willing to pay lots more than for a little blue car. You have options, it's a matter if you see it or not.

Milton Erickson's hypnotic language patterns

The Milton Erickson's hypnotic language patterns causes ambiguity in any representational system which helps to induce trance. They can be used as a converted means to intentionally influence others, I personally love the tag questions, double binds and extended quotes.

1) MIND READ: Claiming to know the thoughts or feelings of another without specifying the process by which you came to know them.

"I know that you are wondering.. . "

2) LOST PERFORMATIVE: Stating a value judgment without specifying whose judgment it is.

"And it's a good thing to wonder.. . "


3) CAUSE & EFFECT: Stating or implying that one
thing causes another. Stated or implied Cause &
Effect patterns include:

a. C E (C makes E happen.)
b. E because C
c. If ... then ...
d. As you... then you...

"Because.. "

4) COMPLEX EQUIVALENCE: Equating two things, or saying that their meanings are equivalent.

"That means.. . "

5) PRESUPPOSITION: Assumption.

"You are learning many things.."

6) UNIVERSAL QUANTIFIER: A set of words that generalizes to 'all' cases or 'no' cases.

"And all the things, all the things.."

7) MODAL OPERATOR: A word such as 'can', 'might', 'should', 'must', or 'ought' which implies possibility or necessity.

". . .that you can learn..."

8) NOMINALIZATION: Changing process words (or verbs) into nouns. The most common nominalization is adding -ing to a verb to make a noun.

"Provide you with new thoughts, and new understandings." (The speaker has changed the process words think and understand into the nouns thoughts and understandings.)

9) UNSPECIFIED PREDICATE: Omitting the verb, or the object of the verb, or both.

". . .and you can. " (Can what?)

10) TAG QUESTION: A question added after a statement, designed to dissolve resistance.

"Can't you ? "

11) LACK OF REFERENTIAL INDEX: Using a general subject that does not refer to a specific person.

Examples: people, they, it, one, that.

"One can, you know.. . "

12) COMPARATIVE DELETION (UNSPECIFIED COMPARISON): Using comparative words without saying who or what the comparison is being made to.

"And it's much more useful.. . "(than what?)

13) PACING CURRENT EXPERIENCE: Describing what the client is currently experiencing in a way which is undeniable.

"You are sitting here, listening to me, looking at me, etc.. . "

14) DOUBLE BIND: An illusion of choice where either choice will lead the listener to do what the speaker is suggesting.

"You can learn everything you need now.. . or you can learn in the next two days."

15) CONVERSATIONAL POSTULATE: A question to which the response is either "Yes" or "No." In allowing the client to choose his response, this pattern avoids authoritarianism.

"Do you feel this is something you understand? "

16) EXTENDED QUOTES: A series of quotes embedded within one long sentence, where the speaker quotes one person talking about what was said by a second person who was talking about what was said by a third person, etc.

"Last week I was with James who went to the 2008 conference, when he talked to someone who said.. . "

17) SELECTIONAL RESTRICTION VIOLATION: Attributing consciousness to an inanimate object or a mode of communication to a creature that does not have that mode.

"A toy can have feelings.. . "

18) AMBIGUITY

a. PHONOLOGICAL: Using two words with different meanings that sound alike in the same sentence; or using one of them in a context where it could also be taken for the other.

"You can hear that here.. . "

"You can believe you're unconscious.. . " (The listener can hear this also as "You can believe your Unconscious.")

b. SYNTACTIC: Using a combination of words
that has more than one possible meaning.

"They are visiting relatives."

c. SCOPE: Using a modifier in a linguistic context where it is unclear which other part(s) of the sentence the modifier refers to.

"Speaking to you as a child.. . " (Who is the child?)

"The disturbing noises and thoughts.. . " (Are the
thoughts disturbing?)

d. PUNCTUATION:
Run-on sentence: Using the last word or phrase in a sentence as the first word or phrase of the next sentence.

"I want you to notice your hand me the book."

Pause at unexpected place:

"As you read this.. . report, you'll gain new insights. "

Incomplete sentence:

"I know that you expect."

19) UTILIZATION: Utilizing all that happens or that the client says.

Client says: "I'm not ready. "
Response: "That's right, you're not ready, yet, because you haven't asked the one question that will have you totally and completely ready. "

Where the Hell is Matt?

Finally the final video is up.

Matt travels around the world to do his special little video and I was part of it.

My little piece of internet history!

Coporate Culture

My friend was frustrated about how she and her boss cannot agree on the objectives in her company's marketing planning. She is into long term planning and her boss insists on short term planning.

I took that as an opportunity to discuss with my favorite marketing lecturer, Bob Miller.

This is my takeaway:

The Universities are teaching us the latest theories/practices in business management. However, the people sitting at the top and middle are generally the baby-boomers. In their time of struggle, such theories and practices were not adopted. It's a matter of mindset. They are comfortable with the way they do business (which was proven) and they will re-train you to be like them.

Stallkamp mentioned is his book SCORE! A better way to do business: Moving from conflict to collaboration that western automobile companies recognized Toyota's global success in their unique way of business and tried to mimic it. They all achieved little success or failed. Their implementations plan made a lot of sense, however, the mindset and culture prevented the success of those implementations.

I guess the word here would be change leadership. Drawing reference to a famous case study of Bill Bratton, it does require a position of power to bring about change in a large organization. this sadly implies that at lower level position, one cannot create significant changes.

Do we stop then? Bob suggests that we can try to make small changes (within your jurisdiction) which produces significant results and get the attention of higher management. Perhaps, that could serve as a portfolio when you have the opportunity to contribute to greater positive changes in the organization.

Or join an organization that already has that culture. Keyword: LEAN

On a lighter side, we could all just wait for these stubborn people to all retire or die off .

Just another Personality Questionaire

Three Things You Want To Do Before You Die:
1) To own a successful business.
2) To become an awesome NLP practitioner.
3) To travel around the world.

Three Names You Go By:
1) Azuki Inase
2) bbybby
3) Bunny

Three Screen Names You Have Had:
1) Azuki
2) Kimochi
3) BDRC

Three Physical Things You Like About Yourself:
1) My Height.
2) My Lanky Built.
3) Thank god for my normal looking Penis.

Three Parts Of Your Heritage:
1) Singaporean.
2) Half Dong Guan Cantonese.
3) Half Fu Jian.

Three Things That Scare You:
1) Fat chicks oozing out from their tight flashy clothes.
2) Needles.
3) Gore.

Three Of Your Everyday Essentials:
1) Facebook.
2) A working mobile phone.
3) Internet.

Three Things You Are Wearing Right Now:
1) A hairstyle that needs trimming soon.
2) A pair of cute socks to keep my feet warm.
3) A brown jacket to keep myself warm.

Three Of Your Favorite Bands/Musical Artists:
1) L'Arc-en-Ciel
2) Linkin Park
3) Famous Classical Musicians like Pachebel.

Three Of Your Favorite Songs:
1) L'Arc-en-Ciel - Lost World
2) Linkin Park - Numb
3) Pachebel - Canon D

Three Celeb crushes:
1) Vivian Chow.
2) Winona Ryder.
3) Takeuchi Yuko.

Three things you just can't do:
1) Be naturally good looking.
2) Stop irritating people with my constant photography.
3) Stop being inquisitive.

Three new things you want to try in the next 12 months:
1) Memorize the Japanese Hiragana and Katagana tables.
2) Do well in my University tutor job.
3) Complete my thesis requirements.

Three Things You Want In A Relationship:
1) Enjoyable companionship.
2) Great communication.
3) Great Sex.

Three Physical Things About The Preferred Sex That Appeal To You:
1) Lively, sparkling eyes.
2) A Pretty face.
3) Big boobs.

Three Of Your Favorite Hobbies:
1) Watching Japanese Animations & Dramas.
2) Reading and
3) Being a Facebook Junkie.

Three Things You Want To Do Really Badly Right Now:
1) See my girlfriend.
2) Go explore a Japan.
3) Graduate from my Honours Program.

Three Careers You're Considering / You've Considered:
1) Business Consultant.
2) Marketing Guru.
3) NLP Master Practitioner.

Three Places You Want To Go On Vacation:
1) Japan.
2) Hawaii.
3) Hong Kong.

Three Kid's Names You Like:
1) Theodore.
2) Celeste.
3) Garion.

Three Ways That You Are Stereotypically a Girl:
1) Cry watching touching dramas.
2) Liking the colour Red.
3) Being a difficult person to understand.

Three Ways That You Are Stereotypically a Boy:
1) Very Messy.
2) No interest in Shopping.
3) Watch and trade pornography.

Pejorative terms for people

I was having a conversation with a friend over MSN and she complained that people mistake her for being an "Ah lian".

What exactly qualifies one as an Ah lian? Google.

Wiki says "Ah Lian is a pejorative term commonly given to a certain group of young Chinese girls in Southeast Asia, especially Singapore and Malaysia.

These Chinese girls, whose collective age ranges from their adolescent years to late 20s, are usually centralised in the busier and more developed cities in the region. They are regarded as bimbos, and are stereotyped as anti-intellectual, superficial, materialistic, and shallow.

Ah Lians are commonly stereotyped as having hair dyed in gaudy and bright colours, and attired in fashion mimicking hip-hop culture, although how much of this is true is debatable. Much like their male counterparts - that is, Ah Bengs - Ah Lians are also thought of as being excessively flashy and show-offs."

The interesting thing was not the qualifications of Ah lians but more of the fact that there are so many pejorative terms for people out there.

Wiki's pejorative terms

F65s, Fag Hags, Indian giver, Green Ink... there's a lot of creativity out there.

For amusement, I shall invent my own pejorative term.

Donut Hunters (m)/ Lollipop Huntress (f)

Donut Hunters is a pejorative term commonly given to a certain group of young men in Southeast Asia, especially Singapore and Malaysia. These young men, whose collective age ranges from their adolescent years to late 20s, are usually centralised in discos and alcohol-serving establishments.

They are regarded as playboys and uncommitted in relationships. Donut hunters are commonly stereotyped as having a habit in engaging in one night stands. Much like their female counterparts - that is, Lollipop huntress - they are also thought of as being excessively flirtatious.

The Donut Hunter "culture" is especially prevalent in nightspots where the 'hunting' for one night stands occurs most often.

The flavors are used to describe the ethnicity or traits of their targets (e.g. Lemon Donut Hunter) :

1) Orange - describes people of Chinese race.

2) Chocolate - describes people of race with dark skin.

3) Cherry - describes Virgins.

4) Vanilla - describes people of Caucasian race.

4) Lemon - describes people of Oriental/Caucasian mix.